Ensure at least next generation is happy
Indian parents pressurise their children to reach heights that were denied to them
Published: 25th September 2021 12:15

For representational purpose.
By Nanditha Krishna
This year, three children in Tamil Nadu have already committed suicide over NEET.
In 2019, one child died by suicide every hour in India. There were 10,335 student suicides that year, the highest number in the last 25 years.
A ban on NEET is not possible because the Supreme Court has passed an order. Many years ago, I knew a young boy, an only child, whose mother told him, from the time he was six, that he had to join IIT.
Indian parents pressurise their children to reach heights that were denied to them. I remember that years ago, when I went to pick up my three-year-old son from his playschool, a mother was scolding her child for not writing in class.
Engineering colleges were once in great demand, but their proliferation has brought down their value. IIT is a passport to the US, while medicine is an assured, well-paying career, so these are in great demand. No parent worries about aptitude.
Examination pressures are exacerbating the mental health of our children. They have to learn by rote and are scared of omitting even a word of teacher-prepared answers. Above that is parental pressure: “I spent so much money on you” or “what will people say if you fail” or “I expect this from you”. The burden is too much. Let us not forget that every student is a child. Some take drugs and slip into happy oblivion, creating social problems. Nobody is talking about drug usage among students. Some run away from home. Others commit suicide.
No other state is opposing NEET. If children from other states can pass the NEET exam, so can the Tamil child. He/she is no less in ability or intelligence. Suicide is most prevalent in government schools where family pressure is very high. Many children are also first-time learners in the family, so the support system is weak. Also, state boards give very high marks, which make a student overestimate his/her ability.
To overcome this, the government must appoint psychologists, backed by psychiatrists, for schools. Children must be screened for aptitude before being permitted to appear for NEET or JEE.
Every state must improve its educational standards. There could be one “senior” school final (Standard 12) exam equivalent to CBSE for which children with aptitude and ability are coached towards NEET/JEE. Another “high” school final (also Standard 12) could be at a lower level, to accommodate those who are not capable of finishing school at a higher level.
Society must ensure that the next generation is a happy generation. For this, we need understanding parents. We must teach children optimism, self-discipline and the importance of healthy relationships.
Nanditha Krishna
Historian and environmentalist. She also runs many schools and a college
(nankrishna18@gmail.com)


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